Spice Up Your Sex Life - BDSM Massage Explained

While BDSM is often associated with harsh whips and chains in dungeons, the activities involved can vary widely. BDSM stands for bondage and discipline, domination and submission, sadism and masochism. It ranges from sensual and teasing to intense and painful.

Participants may use fuzzy handcuffs or opt for inescapable iron manacles for serious bondage enthusiasts. A light furry paddle might be used for playful spanking, whereas a bamboo cane can deliver more severe sensations, leaving lasting marks that some enjoy seeing for days.

What is BDSM - A Beginner's Guide to BDSM Fundamentals

Are you a Dom - the one administering the spanking? A sub - the one receiving it? Or perhaps a switch - someone who enjoys both roles, depending on the context? A good Dominant exercises self-control and respects their Submissive. They should also be responsible enough to adjust or halt a scene immediately upon hearing a safe word. Some Doms maintain relationships solely through phone or email, directing their Subs remotely. Here's more information to help you navigate and understand these roles.

Types of BDSM Services

Domme – Short for dominatrix, dommes enjoy a range of BDSM activities where they take on a dominant role. This includes spanking and corporal punishment, pushing subs to their pain limits and beyond. Dommes also engage in more sensual activities, such as teasing and denying orgasm, humiliation, and various forms of role-playing, like feminisation and anal play.

Sub – Submissive escorts revel in serving their clients in submissive roles. This can involve tasks like serving dominant client meals while nude or in a French maid's outfit, providing foot rubs, and obediently following commands. Subs may also enjoy bondage, tickling, whipping, and other forms of submission that cater to a dominant's desires.

Switch – Switches enjoy both sides of the BDSM spectrum, offering dominance or submission depending on the client's preferences. This versatility allows them to understand and cater to both roles effectively. Switches gain insights from experiencing both perspectives, enhancing their ability to deliver satisfying BDSM sessions.

For escorts new to BDSM, experimenting lightly with pleasure and pain dynamics can help them understand client preferences and broaden their appeal and clientele. Offering BDSM services in London can attract more clients and potentially increase earnings due to the specialised nature of these services.

Pain and Pleasure in BDSM

Pleasure in BDSM:

Teasing: Tease your client’s cock until it’s almost ready to burst, controlling their pleasure completely.
Worship: Have your client worship every inch of your body, emphasising your divine presence and beauty.
Tickling: Lightly restrain your client with handcuffs and use a feather to sensually caress their body, exploring sensitive areas like their genitals.
Blindfolded Taste Test: Blindfold your client and feed them delicious treats like chocolate-covered strawberries or honey, enhancing their sensory experience.

Pain during and after BDSM:

Spanking: Spanking is a classic form of pain play. Administer playful or disciplinary spankings to your submissive client until their buttocks are rosy.
Corporal Punishment: Use a paddle or ruler to deliver controlled strikes to your client's buttocks, adjusting intensity based on their responses.
Clamps: Experiment with clothespins on sensitive areas such as nipples, underarms, or genitals for an intensified sensory experience.

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Author

Julia Rossa - an author, blogger, medical journalist, and certified sex therapist. Educated at London Metropolitan University, she brings a wealth of knowledge and a unique perspective to her writing. Julia is dedicated to providing evidence-based insights on sexual health and wellness, aiming to destigmatise conversations around sex. With years of experience as a therapist, she is also a massage and fitness enthusiast. Through her engaging blog and widely-read articles, Julia empowers readers to enhance their intimate relationships and embrace their sexuality with confidence.